Sick of It
Holding onto anger and stress can certainly lead to making you sick. Stress-related illness in women is on the rise. Here are some interesting ways to dispel your negative emotions.
Getting it All Out
One theory about a way to release stress and anger is to physically indulge in the emotions. A new workshop in the UK encourages women, in a safe environment, to rage until their hearts’ content. Tantrums are welcomed—punching pillows, screaming, jumping on bubble wrap, and more.
In general, we are taught to restrain ourselves—for the sake of civility. What about our inner emotional turmoil? Long work hours, low pay, screaming kids, ignoring spouses, traffic, no chocolate, all the things that can make us downright frustrated and furious, but we have no outlet.
Adele Theron has created a space designed for stressed ladies of all ages and statuses to “shout and pummel their way to inner peace.” Her philosophy is that the negative emotions need to be released. Two tantrum instructors currently guide the workshops.
The participants are urged to write angry thoughts on balloons and then pop them, don goggles and a bat and smash various items, all while screaming expletives as loud as they desire. The theory is that our anger is suppressed. Once it’s experienced, it makes room for us to experience greater joy and happiness.
A Different Philosophy
Indeed now is always the best time to improve our health—emotional and physical. And no doubt, stress-related illness is on the rise. But is feeding into the anger the best way to release it? Some therapists, yogis, and other healers would promote a different way of dispelling anger.
For example, meditation instructor Surbhi Sharma believes anger can be redirected. In order to manage inner rage, he states three essential aspects that must be considered: 1) restlessness in the body and mind; 2) past impression of anger in the mind; and 3) lack of awareness or imperfections. Basically, control the anger before it controls you.
The advice is simple, but not always so easy to practice. Guess that’s why it’s called practice—it’s a work in progress. Get your chemistry balanced: eat nutritionally, sleep well, and get some exercise and/or convene with nature. That’s a start. He then suggests that the moment you sense yourself becoming angry, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Observe the change in your state of mind. Deep, mindful breathing releases stress and calms the mind.