Useful Parenting Tips for Raising Teenagers

Having a positive and healthy relationship with your teenaged kid may seem like an impossible task for many parents, but it is actually not. There are many ways you can influence the adolescent’s life by implementing positive parenting. Many parents make the mistake of thinking that they will have no effect on a teenager’s behavior no matter what they do. When in reality, it is essential that the parents play an active role during this time of their child’s life. It is during this time that the teenagers are experimenting by making various and sometimes careless decisions. If parents do not have a close relationship with their children, they are at a risk of losing an emotional bond with them forever.

1.     Understand

The first step to establish a positive relationship with your child is to understand why they act unpredictably. By studying researches and understanding the changes taking place in the body of your adolescent child, you will be able to better understand what they are going through.

2.     Establish your Role

It is not enough that you act as a parent at all time and it is not recommended to act like a friend always either. This is why you need to make sure you have established your role as both a parent and a friend. There should be no confusion about the role, and you should be able to shift between the two roles at just the right time.

3.     Schedule Time Together

It is extremely important that you spend a significant amount of time with your teenage child. As a parent, you cannot afford to create any distance since it can have damaging effects on your child’s personality. Thus, it is important that you schedule a time during the day where you can have a heart to heart with your kids.  Make sure you always have meals together and discuss their day with them.

4.     Communicate

Your child should never feel as if you are interrogating or investigating them or else they will stop all communication with you. Thus, at all times make sure that the lines of communication are open and the way you communicate with them reflects a lack of judgmental behavior. Ideally, your teenage child should be able to share everything about their life with you without having a second thought.

5.     Have Expectations

Being a parent of a teenager does not mean that you quit setting expectations from them. While you may feel that your child does not look favorably upon what you expect of them, they are actually in need of a direction from their parents and setting expectations helps them get it. Keep informing them of the damages that certain behaviors and actions have on their lifestyle. These expectations will make the teen feel that there is someone looking out for them. They will also feel good about meeting those expectations.

Bottom Line

Creating an environment that makes the teenage child feels welcomed and secure is an essential part of bringing up a positive teen. Thus, as parents, it is our role to make sure that we do everything that we can in order to create a better future for our adolescents.

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Post-Election Emotions: Positive Ways to Cope and Stay Healthy

The results of the 2016 Presidential are wreaking emotional havoc on our nation, communities, friendships, families, and, in turn, our health. Here are some tips on how to cope—and help turn the dark into the brighter side.

It’s Not a Him or Her Thing

Regardless of your political persuasion, you are feeling it—we are all affected. The blame game will never do anyone good. Once we take a few long, deep breaths, a bit of time, and some small steps and back away, we can begin to put certain things into perspective.

Deep down, none of us want to hate or be hated. Our innate inclination is to love and care for others in our species. It’s a basic, genetic survival mechanism. If aliens from another planet invaded, we would all convene and huddle together as humans, right?

OK, most of us would.

Your Convictions Matter

Whichever candidate one voted for this election, seems to have mattered more (to each voter) than any other election in recent history. And because of that, it is especially imperative that we respect one another’s feelings, opinions, beliefs, and choices, regardless of the results. We may not agree with one another, but respect should be the ultimate priority.

Hermann Hesse, author of Siddhartha, said, It may be important to great thinkers to examine the world, to explain and despise it. But I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but to be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.” 

Surely, this is easier quoted than practiced—especially if we’re emotionally charged. But it’s worth contemplating, at the very least.

Symptoms of Anger

Emotional – Failure in facing and dealing with anger in a productive (and resolution-seeking) way can cause a boatload of problems. Emotionally, you may feel constantly irritable, snappy, and impatient, have bouts of rage or depression, feel stress, and/or displace your negative feelings onto others unwittingly.

Physical – Unaddressed and/or indulged anger can cause heart palpitations, tightening of the chest, dizziness, back pain, increase blood pressure, migraines, and extreme fatigue.

Those who experience prolonged periods of anger and anxiety increase their risk of stroke and heart attack. Other physical and emotional developments can include sleep disorders, memory loss, and disintegration of personal relationships.

Working it Out for Yourself and Your Health

If you want to stay healthy, here are few concepts worth exploring and maybe even putting into action.

Take a Break from Thinking About it. Your mind is a brilliant entity, but it can also cause you strife if you let it run aloft. Playing the scenario over and over of what has made you mad, will make you crazy. Distract yourself from ruminating by choosing a relaxing and/or fun activity. Give yourself a break. It might turn out that you’ll feel better and be able to better understand other perspectives.

Apologize if You Went Overboard. In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to criticize, judge, name-call, especially when we’re passionate. But maybe you were too harsh with someone, perhaps a family member, a coworker, or (Oops, oh no!) a friend. Political leanings are never worth hurting ones we care about. We can hold true to our beliefs, yet still be “nice” to those we love who don’t see the world exactly as we do.

Remain Gracious. Humility and grace are such beautiful attributes. You can be generous and objective without being phony. Just remember that your friend (or other fellow humans) have feelings and beliefs, too. You may not share the same, but invalidating theirs does no one any good. Just nod, smile, and carry on. You’ll feel much better than insulting, fighting a fight that’s a lose-lose, and then feeling horrible afterwards. Remember: Grace.

– Communication and gentle, from-the-heart words are about the best we can do to express our care for one another. (Well, besides gift-giving, but that’s another article.) Offer your “biggest” mature person, and perhaps in return, you’ll find some personal satisfaction and maybe even in the best scenario, some enlightenment.

Eating well, exercising, and good sleep are essentials to high-quality health. But if you want optimum results, keeping your anger and emotions in check matter a whole lot, too! Here’s to a kinder, healthier outlook, and richer, human-caring world…