2 Main Reasons Why Females Don’t Have Healthy Body Image

Don’t have the healthiest body image? It’s not surprising—and there are several reasons why.  Below, we explore 2 different causes and how we can begin to overcome these negative perceptions.

When It Begins

Our perception of how we physically appear to others begins early in childhood. We continue to form perceptions of how attractive we are (or aren’t) as we graduate from childhood into adolescence. This self-appreciation or self-criticism continues to develop on through to adulthood. Feedback we get from peers, family, and the media all effect how we eventually see ourselves.

1) The Media

Perhaps one of the most pervasive reasons why healthy body image is distorted is because of the media. Tweens and teens are obsessed with social media, which flaunts perfectly composed selfies. Comments are quickly posted either praising or shaming the poser’s “attractiveness.” Girls compare themselves to others in bikinis, mini skirts, and prom dresses.

Actress Jennifer Aniston recently published an essay in the Huffington Post on this very issue. In her disgust with continual tabloid fabrications about her body, she decided to speak out. She explained that she’s, “…fed up with the sport-like scrutiny and body shaming that occurs daily under the guise of “journalism,” the “First Amendment” and “celebrity news.”

Little girls and young women see distorted photographs of otherwise realistic-looking females. The subjects are airbrushed to appear blemish-free, small-waisted, and have perfectly sized, symmetrical breasts. The message is sent early on that if they don’t look like that, they’re not attractive. As Anniston adds, “The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing.”

2) Your Family

A recent study out of Cornell University depicts interesting results about female body image. Over 500 women between the ages of 20 and 35 were involved in the research. They were asked to recall if their parents discussed their weight when they were growing up. They discovered that parents who commented on their daughters’ weight caused negative perceptions for the females later in life.

As it turns out, weight-related remarks are damaging in two ways. One is that the girls can grow up to have an unhealthy, high BMI. That category was 27 percent more likely to recall their parents talking about their weight. The other bad effect revealed was that even those women who now have a healthy BMI, still have a negative self-image. As parents, better to stay quiet and model by making healthy food choices. Make the focus about health rather than weight.

Looking Within

Sometimes what we see in the mirror isn’t satisfying. It shouldn’t be that way. It’s important as women, we learn to love ourselves inside and out. Acknowledging your feelings and exploring their origin can help you melt away the negative thinking patterns. Dancing, moving, and yoga can help you rediscover the beautiful you. Believe it and you’ll be it.

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Choosing Assisted Living For A Parent With Dementia

Numerous people have been fortunate to have loving parents who cared for their wellbeing, whilst growing up.  What happens when this role is reversed and the parent needs looking after?  Over 15 million people in the U.S care for their elderly parents each year, with half of that number having a parent who experiences some form of dementia.  What signs are an indication that it is time to seriously consider placing a parent in an assisted living environment?


  • The healthcare becomes too much for the caregiver to manage.
  • Home safety has become an issue with hazardous scenarios like: falling, leaving a stove on, and wandering away from the home and getting lost.
  • Planning the move ahead of time would be an ideal situation but for many this is not a reality.  If there is an opportunity to speak with a parent about the potential move to an assisted living home, this would help with the transition.  If the parent suffers from dementia, breaking the news about the move may be emotionally challenging as the parent may not fully understand.

Choosing Assisted Living For A Parent With Dementia

Consider the following steps in helping tell the news:


  1. If the parent is in the early stages of dementia and still comprehends, discuss after you have conducted all the assisted living research and be honest.
  2. The parent may listen more if the news comes from a professional like a doctor, nurse, or social worker.



For most of their lives, parents have been independent, so being told they are moving to an assisted living home may cause the following:

  • Feelings of abandonment
  • Upset
  • Fear
  • Lack of control


In order to calm their fears, research several care facilities.  Asking or researching the following questions, will ease stress and undeserved guilt to the caregiver:


  • Does the home have a special dementia unit?
  • Is it fully staffed seven days a week?
  • Are there medical personal on hand, and if so, how often are they there?
  • Are they Medicare certified and are all staff licensed?
  • Has the home had any lawsuits filed against it (google search)?
  • How large will their personal living space be is there a green area outside?
  • Are personal belongings and or furniture allowed for a home-like feel?
  • Is there an open door policy?
  • Are there planned activities and outings?
  • Will there be a set daily routine and what does it consist of?
  • What safety precautions are in place for dementia sufferers?
  • Is the location close enough for family and friends to visit?
  • Speak with an onsite financial advisor to discuss payment options.



It will take the parent time to adjust to their new environment, and during this period, the caregiver should consider the following steps:

  • Visit occasionally and for short amounts of time until the parent is settled in their new home.
  • Build a relationship with the staff.
  • Parents with dementia will often ask to go home, which can be very upsetting for both parties. Do not try to reason and explain the situation as this can cause agitation and upset for the parent. Try to reassure, comfort and if need be agree and distract.
  • Not only will the parent have to adjust, so will the care giver.


The decision to move a parent to an assisted living home is one of the hardest choices a person will make.  Do not feel guilty, instead be positive that an assisted living home may open more opportunities for them to socialize, be kept safe and provide medical assistance if required.  Read further on this subject and more at:  http://getthrive.com/








Is Teenage Substance Abuse Prevention Realistic?

In today’s world, substance abuse is rampant, especially amongst teens. Anyone can access drugs. It’s almost impossible to avoid them. However, experts believe that parents have a great role in the path of their teen’s habits. So, yes, it is realistic to believe that teenage substance abuse prevention practices may be effective.

Where Do We Start for Teenage Substance Abuse Prevention? 

Research has shown that prevention may start with parents who stay involved. They often incorporate positive parenting tips.

During adolescent and teen years, parents are encouraged to keep open communication with their children. In this manner, adults are more likely to help prevent their kids from falling prey to substance addiction.

With that said, there are other vital tips. Some parents may find them useful during these unsure times.

1.    Set Proper Guidelines

As a parent, you have many responsibilities. One to is to set clear and firm guidelines. These will help your teen identify the best direction. Let your child know your expectations . This will aid them to stay focused. And, hopefully avoid peer pressure.

2.    Remain Involved

It’s brutally common how parents neglect their kids unwittingly. This can be due to outside work or other family commitments. This could be very dangerous for kid who has just entered his teens.

A lack of direction and attention can lead a youngster astray. Teenage substance abuse prevention begins with listening and giving attention.

 Therefore, it is recommended that parents monitor their teens’ activities and behaviors.

Keep the lines of communication open. Nurture trust so that they may share their concerns with you. Also, it is important to make sure that you are aware of where your teen is at all times.

3.    Use Positivity

The world our kids live in is different from what experienced. It’s tough, but we have to wrap our brains around that.

Instead of comparing your teen’s performance to others, try this instead. Use positivity whenever possible to motivate. Remind them of the fine choices they make. Then, use positive reinforcements. Help your child gravitate towards “good” company and healthy activities.

4.    Talk About it

At the same time, it’s also important to make sure your teen is aware of all the consequences associated with substance abuse. 

Unfortunately, many adolescents are blind to the dangers of addiction. Sometimes they don’t even know they’re adopting bad habits.

Additionally, adolescents often feel immune to poor results. Consequently, they don’t realize until after addiction has set in. As a parent, it’s your responsibility to inform your child about all the imminent harms of drug use.

5.    Keep the Environment Healthy

Oftentimes, children whose parents suffer from addiction are more likely to become addicts. Moreover, it’s no surprise that if the environment at home is stressful, the teenager will be more stressed. He/she may be more inclined towards adopting negative “coping” habits.

Thus, as a parent, try to keep the home environment welcoming. Reduce as much stress as possible. The child will be more apt to feel satisfied. Hopefully, this will help avoid looking for self-destructive solutions.

In conclusion…

The role of the parent is significant when it comes to teenage substance abuse prevention. Positive parenting includes: listening to your child, keeping open communication, and staying involved. These may help deter your teen from gravitating towards drug use.

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Is Work/Life Balance Even Possible?

How do we find the perfect work/life balance?   This is a question we have all asked ourselves but many of us don’t sit down and plan the solution?  If you are an entrepreneur, this is an essential undertaking to keep your family, sanity, and productivity all in check.  How do we manage and achieve it all?  Following some essential steps, it’s possible to navigate a business in a positive direction, while keeping life organized and in a state of equilibrium.



Managing a business may seem as simple as a business plan, achievable goals, and deadlines, but what happens when there is an entire team to manage?  Tracked communication is a great way to open up conversations amongst a group, in a time efficient manner.  Examples of websites which accomplish this include:  www.asana.com , www.trello.com  www.monday.com.  They help specifically project manage either an individual or a team by documenting workload, schedules, and assignments.   Using a tool like these sites allows the team to visualize their work day each morning, so attainable results are achieved by the end of the day.

Staff also now have the advantage of viewing their personal goals and timeframes, while also interacting with the other team members.  Many of these websites have a free version or trial, which makes it easy to explore.  The following points, will not only help in the work place, but with life in general too:

  • Invest in a project management app/website and populate it with weekly/monthly team targets
  • Set realistic daily deadlines, with accomplished tasks ticked off from the previous day. There’s a motivational satisfaction when jobs are crossed off and the team will see results.
  • Management should not overstretch their staff. There are only so many hours in a day.
  • False promises should not be made to clients.
  • Smaller tasks should be outsourced. A Website like peopleperhour.com  is a convenient resource.
  • If a deadline looming, switching off email for a period of time can help prevent distractions.
  • Get away from the desk. If high speed wifi is available, almost anywhere can become an office, where work can be accomplished while sipping that latte.



Trying to please everyone can be mentally and physically exhausting.  Set limits and don’t be afraid to say no.  It is proven that a work-life balance leads to higher levels of productivity.  It is possible to achieve results without compromising happiness:

  • Carve out time everyday for friends or family, no matter how hectic life is. Happiness at home will project positively on to work place performance.
  • All work and no play can lead to stress and a severe case of dull person syndrome. Switch off the phone and partake in activities like exercise or hobbies.
  • Weekly/monthly responsibilities at home should be shared, if possible, so they do not creep into work hours.
  • Take time to be healthy. Eat right, sleep 6-8 hours, aim for some sort of activity each day, even if it’s just a walk.

We are all trying to succeed within a small space of time, and how we manage that time shapes our success and happiness.  Self discipline and organization are tools that can help achieve that.  LIVE TO WORK is so yesterday, the future is WORK TO LIVE.  There may be a few hiccups along the way but with determination and focus work-life balance can be accomplished.


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Quick, Nutritious Breakfasts That Will Fit Your Family’s Dietary Needs

(Fill in the blank): Breakfast is the most ________ meal of the day. Of course you know the answer! Maybe you’re still rushing to get yourself, the dog, the spouse, and the kids out of the house in the morning—yet you had good intentions of feeding everyone properly.

Here are 3 quick-to-make, protein-rich breakfast recipes that cover you and your family’s dietary needs. One is low-sugar, another low-fat, and another low-carb. Now all your bases are covered. Check ‘em out…

Low-Fat Banana Cocoa Smoothie

This is a simple recipe with a rich taste that also provides a wealth of protein, potassium, and magnesium. The caffeine content is just enough to give you a kick-start without the shakes. Skip the time or money used on a cup of coffee and feed yourselves this satisfying breakfast smoothie.

In a blender add:

  • 1 ripe banana
  • 2 ounces of plain Greek yogurt
  • 1 tablespoon almond butter
  • ½ cup almond milk
  • 1 tablespoon raw cacao nibs

Add ice and blend. Now you’ve got yourself a drink with very little fat (and it’s the good kind!), a bunch of protein, potassium to lower your water retention, and magnesium to boost your metabolism. Bottoms up!

Low-Sugar Blueberry Buckcakes

Mixing the ingredients should take five minutes and with a hot griddle waiting, each pancake only needs one minute of heat on each side. You could, conceivably, have this delicious, protein-packed, low-sugar breakfast ready to eat in under 10 minutes.

In a bowl, drop in:

  • ½ cup buckwheat flour
  • ½ cup whole-wheat flour
  • ¼ teaspoon powdered Stevia extract (or @ 6 drops of liquid Stevia)
  • ½ teaspoon baking powder
  • ¼ teaspoon baking soda
  • ¼ teaspoon salt

In a separate little bowl beat together:

  • 1 egg
  • ¼ teaspoon of vanilla
  • 1 tablespoon coconut oil
  • 1 cup sour milk (1 cup milk of your choice mixed with 1 teaspoon lemon juice to create acidity)

Pour wet mixture into dry ingredients bowl. Stir briefly. It will be lumpy. Add in ¾ cup of blueberries and fold in gently. If mixture is way too thick, toss in a tiny bit of water and continue to mix.

Place dabs of the mix onto the hot pan/griddle, flattening with a spatula. Flip them over to the other side when cakes are bubbling and the sides begin to brown. Remove from pan, cool briefly, and they are ready to devour!

Low-Carb Sun-Dried and Feta Omelet

This is a delicious, way to fill your belly with healthy ingredients while keeping carbs to a minimum.

In a bowl whisk together:

  • 2 egg whites and 1 egg (with yolk)
  • sprinkle in a ¼ tsp sea salt and 1/8 tsp black pepper
  • 1 teaspoon of fresh herbs- oregano would be delish
  • Butter your nonstick frying/omelet pan. Pour in egg mixture and heat until it “sets”.
  • Crumble 1 ounce of Feta cheese over the eggs
  • Place a few sun-dried tomatoes over the cheese.
  • Fold the egg in half, pressing down with spatula. Remove from skillet and enjoy!

5 Tips to Beat Holiday Stress

The holidays are a great time of the year. But for some people, it can also be a very stressful time. This is often because the holidays are super busy—and there’s always something to do or think about, from traveling, preparing for family visits, buying gifts, cooking, shopping, and attending parties. The list seems to go on…

Holiday duties should be handled in advance whenever possible. So give yourself time by making a list of the things that need to be done, and start early. Here are some other tips to help you beat the holiday stress blues…

1. Set Priorities

When you have many tasks to handle, you may feel really overwhelmed. It helps to set priorities in advance. Take care of the most essential tasks first and work down the list. What is most important to you? It should be connecting with your family first, and then everything else comes after. This includes making the appropriate food choices and the shopping experience.

2. Set Practical Expectations

You are not going to have everything done perfectly. And guess what? It is quite okay! You are not going to be able to control each and every detail and outcome. However, you can mentally prepare for the worst by setting practical expectations and remaining calm and positive if something goes wrong, especially at the last minute.

3. Set a Realistic Budget

Money, and the lack of it, can cause holiday stress. Avoid this by setting a realistic budget. This means that for every gift you intend to buy, you should have a specific monetary amount to spend. Don’t deviate from your budget. And this includes money spent on decorations, food, entertainment, and travel, too.

Don’t try to impress family and friends with highly priced gifts. The gifts you give should be thoughtful. Try small gifts with handmade cards this year or plan a “Secret Santa” gift-giving session as another option.

4. Plan ahead

It is important to plan ahead before your guests arrive. Set aside certain days to go shopping, to cook, and to bake. Plan the menu before going food shopping. Get as much help before and after the holiday celebration – for the preparation and clean up phase.

5. Take it Down a Notch

Don’t take it so seriously! The holiday season is going to come and go, just like every other year. While it may be important to you to make an impression with your yearly holiday rituals, you have to do what is in your best interest. Nothing should be set in stone.

If you have to make some minor changes to lessen your stress, then by all means do so. Let’s say you used to make an ice sculpture every year. Why not relinquish that idea this year and do something different (and a little less extravagant)?

In spite of your best efforts, there may be times when you feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, tired, or even depressed during the holidays. Remember, the holidays are a joyous time and are meant to be enjoyed with family and friends. When that happens, it is time to sit down and take a breather. Never be afraid to seek the help of a medical professional if you feel you need it.



Get Prepared for Cold and Flu Season

As the seasons are charging and the cold weather begins to close in on us, we need to start preparing for the cold and flu season. Planning ahead for cold and flu season will make life a lot easier on your family. Here are some tips that we do for our family that can be helpful for you to better prepare.


Making your cold and flu fighting kit


Start off by inventorying you medicine cabinet, just in case you may be low or out of ascentials. You are going to want to make sure you have pain relievers/ fever reducers, such as tylenol or motrin. Also the obvious cold and flu medicine is another necessity. The way we do it in our family, we make sure to have at least one bottle of fever reducer and one bottle of cold medicine per child. Same goes for the adults. We keep special cold medicine that doesn’t have any Tylenol in it (for the one weird one that is allergic to Tylenol).


Also stocking up on herbal teas is a good idea. Sleepytime tea is really good for a cold. The chamomile in it helps to relax you and help you rest, while the spearmint will help open you up similar to vicks vapor rub.


Another huge must have in your cold and flu fighting kit is an oral thermometer. It is really important to keep track of how high your families fevers get. If a fever gets too high you will need to get medical treatment as soon as possible. You can get more information on the best oral thermometers to keep in your cold and flu fighting kit on https://www.vivehealth.com/blogs/resources/best-oral-thermometer.


Keeping the germs at bay


To help prevent the spread of germs, encouraging your family to wash their hands constantly is a must. Make sure to stock up on antibacterial soap and always use hot water when washing your hands. Stocking up on hand sanitizer too is a great way to be prepared for cold and flu season.


Another way to fight the germs is to use throw away cups, plates and eating utensils. You won’t have to worry about washing dishes or worry if you got them disinfected enough to not ‘play ping pong’ with getting a cold or flu.


Make sure to keep an arsenal of disinfectant spray. You are going to want to disinfect everything in the house daily (in my case I spray everything down at least twice a day). Making sure you kills off those pesky cold and flu germs will help your family get over being sick faster.


Last but definitely not least, make sure your family gets their flu shots. It may not fight the cold germs, it will prevent them from getting the flu.


Prepping for those upcoming sick days


It is important to have a plan of action for those upcoming sick days. In case you can’t get off work if your kids get sick, have a backup babysitter. Also check how many sick days you have available in case you get sick as well.


Stock up on soups, easy on the stomach meals, juice and ginger ale. You want to have the kitchen stocked with food and drinks that will be easy on the stomach, but still have the nutrition your family will need to fight off those cold and flu symptoms.


Cranberry juice is high in antioxidants, which help to boost the immune system. Orange juice is high in vitamin C, which is also good to boost the immune system and fight off infections and viruses. Ginger ale and cola will help ease an upset stomach.


Avoid any kind of overly spiced soups and foods, because these can cause upset stomachs. Bland may not taste all that great, but they will keep you from getting an upset stomach as well.


Movies, books, Netflix and plenty of rest


Rest is essential to getting over a cold or the flu. Get your favorite movies out, pay up on you Netflix account, and gather up some amazing reading material. Binge watching your favorite tv shows or having movie marathons will help your family to rest up and past the time while they are sick. For us it Harry Potter and Star Wars movie marathons. The binge watch their favorite cartoons on Netflix. And, of course, the stockade of e-book on the Kindle.


Getting sick sucks


While getting sick is not something anyone really looks forward to, being prepared does make it easier in case you and/or your family does get sick. Prep for the worst, but keep you hopes up for the best is a good a good way to look at it, when preparing for cold and flu season.

Contributed by Joe Fleming, Vive Health Co-Founder

To Church, Or Not To Church

For many parents, the decision of whether or not to pass their religious heritage on to their children looms large. Given the wide range of experiences so many have endured with the church, it’s no wonder the consideration of what to do raises many questions.

Positive Experence

Depending on your background, positive church experiences may be more common than you think. Generations of healthy families count their religious practices among the most cherished traditions they have.

For others, the very idea of religion carries a host of unwanted baggage. Perhaps the judgment they endured seemed hypocritical and contrary to the teachings of the church. Maybe abuse was a part of their experience. The faith and trust they placed in leaders washed away because of a gross misuse of power.

What To Do?

No matter where you are along the spectrum, religion can be a dicey subject. Tobin Walsh is one parent who’s mulled over these issues time and time again. In a recent post, he details the internal struggle of parenting children with the ongoing uncertainty of the role faith should play in their family’s life. Says Walsh,

My view of attending church was formed by a Catholic upbringing which, for me, connected going to church with routine. Attending mass was not about being devout as much as standing up and sitting down for an hour per week on cue.

As Walsh continues, he shares how his personal experience should not impact the opportunity his children have to explore church for themselves. He’s determined that, for him, church is not a necessary component of a faith-filled life. This, however, should not interfere with his children’s personal faith exploration. As he winds down, Walsh concludes:

Parenting is about constantly re-accessing my direction and allowing for deviations from the path I might envision for my kids.

These kinds of questions are neither new, nor relegated to a small minority. According to a Pew Research study released in late 2015, the majority of Americans still identify as Christian; however, what, if any, involvement they have with a local church varies widely.

Getting Into It

Interestingly, Mormons (better than two-thirds) report the highest level of regular involvement in their congregations. Evangelicals, on the other hand, reflect a less than 50% rate of ongoing participation.

Making sense of these numbers can be tricky. Determining what constitutes a follower in a particular faith means different things to different people. For some, being born into a family of a certain faith is enough. While others accept a more strictly defined role which includes weekly attendance and participation.

By and large, parents maintain the most influential relationships that children have – good and bad. The type of upbringing they experience will shape their worldview in profound ways. With such important stakes, giving thought to your family’s best interests is a worthy investment of your time.