Entitled Attitudes Lead to Less Joyous Lives

A new study confirms that those who feel more entitled than others ultimately end up feeling the most unhappy.

Me, Myself, and I

Entitlement is a term that connotes a degree of selfishness. It’s a state of thought and behavior where an individual feels he/she deserves better than others. Standard rules don’t apply to the entitled.

This particular attitude is not just about deserving more “things” or money. It exudes a tad of narcissism; it’s a me-me world, which is all about what I want. And, I should get what I want—because I’m me!

Sound Familiar?

We’ve all observed a person who believes he/she is an exception to the norm. They are often the person who complains the most, the loudest, or blames others for their own unmet expectations.

A lot of times that individual expects something for nothing.

But we know the world doesn’t operate that way. That person may annoy us—or even make us feel envious (because a lot of times they do get what they want.) But new research out of Bowling Green University in Ohio shows that the “entitled” more often experience disappointment. They basically set themselves up for disenchantment and distress.

Don’t Whiney, Be Happy

The lead author of the study, Joshua Grubbs, explains that along with a sense of entitlement, there is a void of pride in earning. When we work hard and receive what we desire, we feel a sense of satisfaction.

Taking it a step further, we can feel satisfied by the smallest of accomplishments on a daily basis. We even have the ability to feel happy for the things we already have. That falls into the category of gratitude.

The study reviewed over 170 separate studies on the theme of entitlement. One discovery, which was a pervading theme, was the entitled person’s level of disappointment. Because he/she created a level of expectations (that were often unmet), the individual became angry and depressed. Those emotions bled into social and personal relationships, and life overall, did not hold much joy.

Ambition vs. Entitlement

As we are learning, entitlement is often synonymous with negativity and unpleasantness. Ambition, however, can be healthy if approached properly.

A strong drive and motivation to achieve is a positive model for attaining goals. Working hard and setting standards are realistic modes of meeting one’s own expectations. “Many of the world’s greatest, most-accomplished leaders have been truly humble people.”


Truly, the world doesn’t owe us one thing. Perhaps that’s a good reason to be thankful for the things we do have. How positive it must be to teach and model for our children behaviors that display best effort and genuine gratitude. After all, isn’t the thing we want most for our children is for them to be happy?

If you want to read more about positive living and lifestyle tips, check out www.GetThrive.com

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QUIZ: How is Your Mental Health at Work?

Have you ever wondered about your mental health as it relates to your job?


Your mental health affects how you feel, think, and act. Take this quiz to see if it might be time to improve your mental health.


  • Read each question
  • Choose the response that most closely fits your situation
  • Upon completion, follow the instructions to reveal your level of mental health

(Don’t worry. If you’re a mess, we offer plenty of tips to get you back on track.

1. When you wake up in the morning, are you…


  1. a) Excited to get to work?
  2. b) Dreading the workday?
  3. c) Numb and just do what you have to do?

2. When you first get to work, do you…

  1. a) Jump right into a task?
  2. b) Procrastinate because you can’t bear to start?
  3. c) Take your time and eventually start working?

3. When a coworker talks to you, do you…

  1. a) Enjoy having communication?
  2. b) Cringe and want to be left alone?
  3. c) Smile, but move on?

4. When your boss or manager talks to you, do you…

  1. a) Appreciate the communication?
  2. b) Want to scream and run away?
  3. c) Listen politely and then carry on?


5. If you think of your workload, you think…


  1. a) ”I’m motivated by the challenge!”
  2. b) ”I just got tossed into the ocean with cement shoes”
  3. c) ”This is what my hamster must feel like on his wheel.”


6. When you think of your workspace, you think…


  1. a) “It’s really a pleasant space.”
  2. b) ”I’d rather be in a dungeon with rats and snakes.”
  3. c) ”I don’t pay much attention. It’s fine.”


7. Do you spend most of your workday thinking about…


  1. a) Your job, your family, and how you will spend the weekend?
  2. b) How miserable you are and how you can’t wait to get out of there?
  3. c) Your job, your family, and your problems?


8. Is your workspace…


  1. a) Neat and organized?
  2. b) Like the aftermath of a tornado site?
  3. c) Messy, but you can find things if you have to?


9. Do you feel appreciated or positively acknowledged for the work you do?

  1. a) Absolutely
  2. b) Never
  3. c) Sometimes

10. How many times in the past year have you taken sick days?


  1. a) between 0 and 3
  2. b) between 4 and 7
  3. c) between 8 and 15


11. Which best describes your daily experience at work?


  1. a) Grateful for the job and you typically enjoy your day
  2. b) Worst part of my day
  3. c) It is what it is


Congratulations on completing the test (and you didn’t even have to study!)


Tally up how many questions you answered with an “a”, “b”, and “c”.


If you answered all 12 questions with an “a”, then you are rockin’ it with an abundance of positive mental health. You also, seemingly, have a great job! Keep up the terrific attitude and may good health and many bonuses remain in your future.


If you answered 6 or more questions with an “a”, your mental health at work is in pretty good shape. It seems as if you like your job for the most part. Perhaps you have an occasional awkward moment with a coworker or manager. You can improve your well-being by using your break time to take a walk or read a book—find a quiet zone to relieve stress during the workday.


If you answered 8 or more questions with a “c”, you may feel a little disconnected. Your mental health could be improved. Perhaps you are too passive. Do you want to feel better at work? Do you want to enjoy your job? It might be time to improve your communication skills. Find ways to address what’s bothering you in an appropriate but direct way. Once you become a bigger part of your company, you will feel more alert and passionate.


If you answered mostly “a” and “c”, fret not, because your work mental health glass is still half-full. Although there are issues, you can improve your situation by altering a few small things. Perhaps you feel isolated on the job. Or, maybe you don’t feel properly trained or supported. Or maybe you are fairly motivated and others around you are dragging you down. Take a couple of minutes each day to “meditate” in your workspace. You don’t have to sit cross-legged—just close your eyes and go within. Take a few deep breaths. You will feel renewed and your mental energy will be boosted.


If you answered mostly “b” and “c”, you may be struggling more than you need to be. It appears you are not particularly happy, and you’ve given up caring somewhat. It will be a change, but the first step to improving your mental health at work is to focus on the good. It may be a challenge to come up with anything positive off the bat, but don’t stop searching. Even if you like the air conditioning, a particular customer, or that you don’t have to work on the weekend—pick something that pleases you. Also, if your workspace is messy, spend a little time getting organized. You will feel proud and will certainly be more productive.


If you answered 9 or more questions with a “b”, it might be time to seek new employment. But, before you blame all your anger or misery on your job, check to see if some of the negativity is coming from within. One thing you can do to improve your mental health at work is to focus on the present. Try not to think of all the distressing things bothering you outside of work. Attempt to stay in the moment and give the job (and yourself) a chance. Put warm, happy photos around your workspace. If you are permitted, play music in the background. There are many ways you can create a more positive experience for yourself, even if the environment isn’t ideal.


Dr. Dave Campbell Commentary:


The Surgeon General of the United States has described the categories of well-being that affect quality-of-life. Self-perceived health, social-connectedness as well as physical and mental health are three of them. Each can be fostered by a healthy, happy and productive workplace. As a physician, I have many patients tell me something like, “Doc, it feels like I’m always at work with no time for myself or my family and friends”.  Odds are that nearly as much time of your time is spent on the job as at home-awake that is.

Remind yourself that it could be worse. Many countries are not as prosperous as the United States. Many people in this country and across the world don’t even have jobs to go to. Take a hard look at your own circumstances in the workplace. Look for the good and foster them. Identify those factors that make for a bad day at work and make them better-with effort.


For more information about your mental health, check out GetThrive.com today!



How To Have A Positive Parent-Child Relationship (Even When You Feel It’s the Biggest Challenge)

Parenting. Is there a right or wrong way to do it?  Billions throughout the world are parents. Regardless,  all parents have different mindsets on how to do their job. The parent-child relationship is a delicate, yet powerfully significant entity in life.

Clearly, making it a positive force is a challenge. Nonetheless, it’s something that is definitely attainable.

Notably, there are many social and psychological reports. They include explaining the impact of family demographics. Next, these include cultural and economic influences.  Additionally, there are plenty of written guidelines, all which aim to help to produce the “model child.”

Get Your Parent-Child Relationship Philosophy Straight

Realistically, there will be dramas.  And yes, children will answer back. Kids will also be non-compliant. So, how do parents stay grounded and consistent when faced with tough challenges? 

Ask yourself this question:  What makes the closest to an ideal parent?

All the while, parenting is accomplished in many different ways, yet, the answers are roughly the same:

  • Unconditional love
  • A positive role model
  • Advisor
  • Teaching children to be independent

Where Things Can Go Awry

In today’s society, a majority of parents forget the foundations. Ironically, many adults veer off this well-laid path by complicating the way they parent. Unfortunately, things like this may happen:

  • Reduced supervision in the home environment
  • Helicopter parents who hover over the child and rescue them from negative situations
  • Drill sergeant parents who shout instructions and control

Even With the Best Intentions…

Most parents come from the good place of love. Oftentimes, however, their personal traits and insecurities dictate how these influence their child’s behavior.  So then, how does one ensure a positive parent-child relationship while not letting personal issues affect on the optimism of the relationship?

Here are a couple of suggestions to boost the parent-child relationship:

  • Let the child fail. As frightening as this statement sounds, through failure, the child will learn. For example, guide and advise, but do not control.  Sometimes, children need to be able to make their own decisions. This is a skill imperative to their future.  In addition, this will help your relationship and fortify independence.

  • An example of this is homework. Helping (or doing)  the questions, or constantly reminding them to complete the task, may not be helpful. Finally, it may result in them not suffering a natural consequence. Overall, nothing here will be learned by the child. Not academics. Not consequences.


  • Quality time. Switch off the phones, TV, computers, and sit down to talk.  Dinner time is perfect. Obviously it’s not always possible because of activities and jobs.  Most importantly, then, carve out at least 15 minutes a day to have worthy conversation.  It doesn’t have to be about the meaning of life.  But, it could be as simple as asking how the day went. Or, it could even be sharing a joke.  All of these conversations open up lines of communication.  Children need reassurance that parents are always there to talk to. No matter how hectic life can get.

Have Rules and Set Boundaries

Starting from infancy, the parents set the rules. “Don’t touch that, it’s too hot.” “Don’t hit your brother!” “Don’t draw on the walls,” etc.  The list is endless. However, actions following broken rules have a huge validity on the parent-child relationship.

What set of consequences are in place? And, are they adhered to?  If there is threat of action due to a broken rule, correction must follow.  If not, children feel they can break rules again. Unfortunately, this can also lead to insecurities due to lack of boundaries.

Structure as a Necessity

Noteworthy, humans need structure and rules to flourish and feel secure. Numerous studies have shown this to be true. Structure can make interactions with children concrete.  Success in rule-making for the parent-child relationship follows these simple steps:

  • Set simple rules everyone understands.
  • Be consistent and don’t back down.
  • Don’t feel guilty. Most importantly, these rules are in place to ensure children’s safety.
  • Teach respect, and in turn, empathy.

Society as a Factor

Modern day society can be considered complex. For one, it may have us clambering to the top of a competitive pile. Also, it can be considered egocentric. “Shoot your neighbor, get out of my way, I’m first.”

In order to raise children as non-narcissistic little monsters, efforts may be better focused on education and character.

A Harvard study of 10,000 middle- and high-school students found that four out-of-five kids perceived that their parents valued achievement more than caring for others. That’s pretty sad.

Whether the students’ perception were accurate or not, the information is devastating. In the best of all worlds, parents should lead by example. We need to show compassion for others through our words and actions.

With communication, empathy, logic, rules and consistency, parents have the tools to raise their kids.  The child-rearing road may be full of potholes.  But, with a strong foundation, a good relationship will form and hopefully have longevity.  To read more about parent/child relationships, please check out www.GetThrive.com






How Changing Your Work Environment Can Change You

Working for a living can be tough, but it’s mandatory for many of us. But as the days, weeks, months, and years roll by, we sometimes find ourselves slipping into a slump, which decreases our activity, productivity, and even our mental health.

Love or hate your job, sometimes we all need a little change of scenery. In fact, that might be just the thing you need to boost your productivity levels throughout the day.


1. Take a Break  


No matter how busy you are or what you are tasked with, don’t forget to take periodic breaks. Go out and grab an afternoon coffee or go for a walk. Taking a breath of fresh air will help to ease tension clear your mind, and give you the ability to think clearly and even problem solve better.

2. Boost Creativity


Not only can changing your work environment help you boost productivity, it can also help you boost your creativity. Changing your work environment and work scenery can help you to be more open-minded and even “think outside the box”.

3. Fine Tune and Focus


Sometimes breaking away from a busy work environment can do more harm than good. For example, if you work in a office that is busy, loud or otherwise disruptive, then breaking away and working in more of a quiet, secluded place might be what you need to shut the world out, focus, and get things done.

4. Minimize Distractions


You might be surprised to discover what you can get done by simply minimizing distractions. Whether that is turning off your phone or text messages, staying off social media, putting up an automated message on your instant message program or email, find out what your biggest distractions are during the day and do what you need to do to minimize them.

5. Set Time Limits


Once you have found your own place of quiet and solitude, it’s time to set time limits to get certain tasks done. Start with the hardest task or the task you dislike most first. Set time limits for each task, and then watch the day fly by as you get things done!

6. Plan a Working Vacation


It might sound silly but sometimes planning a few days, a long weekend or even a week away to the beach might be all you need to change your scenery (if your job permits this flexibility, of course).

Of course not everyone’s job allows for them to up and hop a plane or jump in the car and drive to wherever, but even making the tiniest changes to your work environment can make a huge impact on your productivity and creativity—and it can even be easy on your mind. In fact, you might even feel like a brand new person!

If you have a job where you are confined to a specific office (and you might even feel “chained” to the desk, so to speak), then it doesn’t mean you are out of luck.

You can do simply things like have your office walls painted, redecorated, add some plants to your desk, reorganize your supplies or even your office furniture. Sometimes even those small changes can make a world of a difference.

Changing your work environment can change you—for the better! Check out this site here to learn more ways to increase your productivity.

For more tips on how to live a healthier and happier lifestyle, check out some more blogs at GetThrive.com.



7 Helpful Tools to Tune Up Your Relationship

Over time, even the strongest marriages and relationships need work. Whether your relationship needs a tune up or a major overhaul, couples can do a number of things and use various tools to get their marriage or partnership back on track. And one of the best ways to do this is by changing your behavior towards your spouse or partner…

1. Couples Counseling

– Couples in any relationship, partnership or marriage that starts to show the beginning signs of failure will often turn to couples counseling for help. While counseling isn’t for every couple out there, it could be a great place to start and to learn things about one another that you may have never known!

In addition to teaching you how to better understand each other, effective couples’ therapy can help you gain a more useful understanding of yourself, too.

By using the skills you learn during your sessions and applying them inward, you can break negative repetitive patterns in your own behavior. Couples counseling can also make you more receptive to constructive criticism, which is critical for responding positively to your partner’s critiques of your actions.

2. Get the Most Out of Each Other

Many couples fall into the trap of focusing on the immediate problem that is plaguing their marriage or relationship at any given time. Most committed partners have numerous responsibilities that create everyday stress—and dealing with that stress day in and day out and can take its toll on couples, which often leads to a lack of communication, disconnection, and even resentment.

For example, couples argue about a host of common problems, such as finances, children, and work. By focusing on narrow issues, couples never really learn how to cope with the broader issues that are harming their marriage.

It is easy to get bogged down by the daily grind of everyday life. Committed couples can avoid this pitfall by creating big goals and sticking to them. For example, spouses can collectively decide that their therapy goal is to learn to be more loving, more generous partners.

This attitude allows them to keep the bigger picture in mind so they do not get lost in the details of life’s daily stressors.

Also Read : The Secret to a Happy Marriage that Will Shock You

3. Tools to Bring Back the Tick

Statistics suggest between 40 and 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Fortunately, there are a number of tools both spouses can use to combat these numbers. Check out this site here to read more about divorce statistics…

4. Have a Positive Attitude

As with most things in life, attitude has a tremendous impact on how an individual perceives a task or problem. If you maintain a positive attitude with your partner—even though deep down inside you might feel hurt, anger or resentment—you will likely find that talking through these issues in a positive manner might save you.

5. Do Not Be Afraid to Share

Although you might feel reluctant to talk about yourself, use the time you have to talk to your partner about your thoughts and feelings.

6. Focus on Self-Improvement

It is human nature to find fault in other people. Rarely, however, do individuals search inside themselves for the source of the conflict they are experiencing. It might be easy to blame the other person for the majority of your problems, but this is almost always an inaccurate representation of your living situation.

7. Avoid Denial

Most people seek couples counseling because their relationship is less than ideal. Interestingly, many individuals either downplay their marriage problems or deny them altogether. Acknowledge your marriage and relationship problems as real issues that demand immediate attention.

Fortunately, there are comparatively few relationship problems that couples simply cannot overcome—other than infidelity and abuse, of course. According to psychotherapist Micki McWade, infidelity and spousal abuse are two big issues that routinely break up marriages. Check out this article by the Huffington Post here.

However, with two equally engaged partners determined to make their relationships or marriages work, it is possible to save even the rockiest union, and to put that special tick back in a relationship.

The Power of Positive

It’s not surprising that “positive” believers and doers can achieve high rates of success. Think about how compelled we are and how we gravitate towards positive people. Positive energy holds so much power that it’s been known to improve relationships, careers, and even your health.

Let’s check out what researchers are exploring about positive thinking…

The Power of Positive Thought

Abraham Lincoln once said, “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns—or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” 

How we perceive life has a tremendous impact on what we draw into our lives. A positive outlook focuses on lighter and brighter. There is an expectation of positive results from well-intended efforts. Additionally, positivity breeds an attitude of being able to overcome obstacles and forge ahead towards meeting goals.

Conversely, negative thoughts may draw more instances of ill feelings. Indifference can pervade, or a feeling of wanting to “give up” may take over. Perhaps that’s why negative people may appear to have bad luck or poor health.

Remember: Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

What Can Positive Thinking Do?

According to Mayo Clinic research, one thing positive thinking does is help with stress management. If positivity can diminish stress, then think how successful your mental and physical health could be at work and in life.

Other researched health benefits from the power of positivity may include:

  • boosted immune system
  • lower rates of depression
  • improved concentration
  • better quality of overall psychological and physical wellbeing
  • improved cardiovascular health
  • increased life span
  • improved coping skills during time of duress

Stress causes harm to your body and mind. If a positive mindset reduces stress, then it follows suit that your physical and mental health will improve with the power of positive.

Positive Thinkers, Speakers, and Authors

There is a deluge of books and articles on the power of positivity. Some of them focus on using positive thoughts to manifest a healthier life. Some discuss the effects of positive living on work and relationships. Others make claims that a positive attitude encourages greater life satisfaction and inner peace.

Mike Dooley is a speaker and best-selling author who promotes his philosophy of thoughts becoming things. One of his most recognized quotes isThoughts Become Things… Choose The Good Ones!”

Another person (a tad bit more famous), Buddha, once wrote, “We are what we think.”

Barbara Fredrickson, an author and positive psychology researcher, discovered that positive thinking improves your work skills.

John Hopkins University conducted a study on the health effects of positivity. The participants all had a family history of heart conditions. Those with a positive outlook had a one-third less chance of having a heart attack within 25 years than those who had a more negative perspective and attitude.

In the book “Creating Money, Keys to Abundance”, the authors wrote about the strength and power of positive thinking. They believe that “One positive thought can cancel out hundreds of negative ones.”

Health guru Dr. Deepak Chopra explained, …thinking is “real” medicine, as proven by the placebo effect. When given a sugar pill in place of a prescription drug, an average of 30% of subjects will show a positive response. What causes this response isn’t a physical substance but the activity of the mind-body connection. Expectations are powerful. If you think you’ve been given a drug that will make you better, often that is enough to make you better.”

Which End Is Up—Positive or Negative?

Some experts (and laymen) believe people are with born with a positive or negative outlook and they remain that way. Then, there are some research pundits who believe that one can adopt a positive attitude and improve his/her mental and physical health by changing perspectives. And, as we’ve learned here, there are many others who believe we have the power to choose and control our positive thoughts, using their power enrich our lives inside and out.

What do you think?

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To Church, Or Not To Church

For many parents, the decision of whether or not to pass their religious heritage on to their children looms large. Given the wide range of experiences so many have endured with the church, it’s no wonder the consideration of what to do raises many questions.

Positive Experence

Depending on your background, positive church experiences may be more common than you think. Generations of healthy families count their religious practices among the most cherished traditions they have.

For others, the very idea of religion carries a host of unwanted baggage. Perhaps the judgment they endured seemed hypocritical and contrary to the teachings of the church. Maybe abuse was a part of their experience. The faith and trust they placed in leaders washed away because of a gross misuse of power.

What To Do?

No matter where you are along the spectrum, religion can be a dicey subject. Tobin Walsh is one parent who’s mulled over these issues time and time again. In a recent post, he details the internal struggle of parenting children with the ongoing uncertainty of the role faith should play in their family’s life. Says Walsh,

My view of attending church was formed by a Catholic upbringing which, for me, connected going to church with routine. Attending mass was not about being devout as much as standing up and sitting down for an hour per week on cue.

As Walsh continues, he shares how his personal experience should not impact the opportunity his children have to explore church for themselves. He’s determined that, for him, church is not a necessary component of a faith-filled life. This, however, should not interfere with his children’s personal faith exploration. As he winds down, Walsh concludes:

Parenting is about constantly re-accessing my direction and allowing for deviations from the path I might envision for my kids.

These kinds of questions are neither new, nor relegated to a small minority. According to a Pew Research study released in late 2015, the majority of Americans still identify as Christian; however, what, if any, involvement they have with a local church varies widely.

Getting Into It

Interestingly, Mormons (better than two-thirds) report the highest level of regular involvement in their congregations. Evangelicals, on the other hand, reflect a less than 50% rate of ongoing participation.

Making sense of these numbers can be tricky. Determining what constitutes a follower in a particular faith means different things to different people. For some, being born into a family of a certain faith is enough. While others accept a more strictly defined role which includes weekly attendance and participation.

By and large, parents maintain the most influential relationships that children have – good and bad. The type of upbringing they experience will shape their worldview in profound ways. With such important stakes, giving thought to your family’s best interests is a worthy investment of your time.

Foster Parenting: Is It Right For Me?

Did you know May is National Foster Care Month? No? Don’t feel bad, plenty of Americans fall into this category. But everyone wins when we at least take the time to learn more about how foster care works.

Many children in the foster care system have been thrown away. Some were born to parents unable to care for them due to addictions or poor life choices, while others have parents who may be incarcerated. In some cases children were subjected to abuse or neglect.

These represent just a few of the reasons children are placed into foster care, but none of them requested their circumstances. They are simply playing the hand they’ve been dealt.

Over 400,000 children were part of the American foster care system in the fall of 2014. This represented a 4% increase in just two years time. Of that number nearly 40% were five years of age or younger.

What’s more, the number of children entering the system exceeds the number of children exiting the system. The two primary reasons children exit the system are due to adoption, or reunification with their natural parent(s) or primary caretaker(s). With numbers like these, it’s easy to see why foster parents are in high demand.

In a recent post to Disney’s babble.com website, Mike Berry shares his heartwarming personal account of parenting over 30 children in the foster care system. If you’ve every considered fostering or are just curious about the process, I highly recommend taking a few short minutes to read Berry’s post.

For more information on how to get started in the foster care system, visit www.adoptuskids.org. The website offers a variety of resources on the laws which govern the system, and how to get personally involved.

There are many ways to get involved in the lives of America’s youth. Foster care is just one important example. If you feel pulled to learn more about foster care, take that next step. If foster care isn’t right for your family, perhaps a program like Big Brothers, Big Sisters could be.

Take the time to find a way to invest in a child’s life. You’ll be glad you did!